Generating Protected, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis


It is December, so light 1 up as we take the time to realign and reflect. As we gallop via the fierce, fiery, and adventurous domain of Sagittarius Season, we’re led deeper into our desires, into what’s worthwhile for us to personal and accomplish. Represented by the glyph of the archer, Sagittarius is 1 with the bow and arrow it carries aiming at its vision with intent and concentrate. Sagittarius calls us to develop and evolve, and in some cases this suggests taking stock of diverse elements of our life, like our emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. And although it may possibly not be the most entertaining issue to believe about, in some cases this can assistance us achieve clarity about our connection with items like cannabis, and how this is assisting or hindering our magick. 

It is no shocker that I like cannabis. Though I use it to assistance with anxiousness, I mainly use it recreationally, as a way to loosen up and bond with loved ones and close friends, as effectively as a aspect of my spiritual and ritual practice. But lately something’s been off my physique hasn’t been reacting to cannabis the way it normally does. I took a tolerance break earlier this Fall to assistance with this, but now I am realizing the universe and my spirit guides are most probably yelling at me—through a racing heart and unhappy lungs—to let me know that the way I have been functioning with this sacred plant medicine is not so sacred. Considering that it is Sagittarius season, and nearing the finish of the year, I decided it would be a superior time to readjust my connection with weed. But I cannot assistance but wonder: because this is a season when entertaining and sexiness reign supreme…can I use BDSM to assistance redefine my connection with cannabis?

To assistance me answer the significant queries (like how can I be the Domme in my connection to cannabis alternatively of possessing cannabis Domme me?) I talked to qualified dominatrix, sex witch and cannabis connoisseur Domina Dia Dynasty. We speak about locating clarity, negotiating boundaries with plant medicine, holding reverence for the spirit of the cannabis plant and how to use kink to whip your connection with cannabis into shape. 

Be Truthful About Your Partnership With Cannabis

The 1st step you will want to take in generating a healthier and saner connection with cannabis is to be truthful about what this connection appears like suitable now, and how this has shifted because you entered the connection. Like myself, Dia had a entertaining and lighthearted connection with cannabis at the starting, but right after getting into a romantic partnership midway via her time Domming at a industrial dungeon seven years ago, items started to shift, causing her to rethink the techniques in which she was working with cannabis.

“I saw positive aspects of it that had been a lot more in a playful entertaining way, in loosening my thoughts up and getting inventive. Then it began to be this issue that I necessary to deal with anxiousness and to deal with specific elements of my connection that I was really really blind to due to the fact I didn’t know what PTSD and trauma looked like in other people today,” Dia explained. “I could see it in passing with some of the customers I had or that they would inform me about it, but in living with somebody and possessing a connection with them that was intimate on all levels, it was difficult for me to have an understanding of what was genuinely going on.”

Though she would incorporate cannabis into some of her sessions with customers, either as one thing to boost somatic experiences, or to lead to some anxiousness that she would hold space for and transmute, Dia realized that her connection with the plant was becoming habitual, and not as conscious as it had been in the starting. “I had permitted cannabis to dominate me by constructing a dependency with it.  Now as I’ve shifted my connection with it, it is not so a great deal that I’m dominating it, it is a lot more like getting in that mode of switchiness,” Dia explains. “I want to have a wholesome connection with it and I do not want to say ‘I’m quitting’ or ‘I’m not undertaking it anymore’. It is a lot more about gaining clarity. As an individual who is really switchy and really mutable, it is improved for me to be in a position to opt for one thing than to be forbidden to not opt for something”

In my personal case, working with cannabis habitually has also turn into a dependency, 1 that I really feel like I require for social events or to assistance quell anxious, lonely or worried thoughts. And although I’m okay nevertheless working with cannabis, I recognize that this is not sustainable, and that seeing the plant with a lot more reverence, and seeing its use as one thing sacred, alternatively of one thing super casual, will assistance me deepen my connection with its spirit. 

Ivory Woods

Get Clear On Your Intention And Re-Negotiate Boundaries 

Taking the time to believe of how your connection to cannabis has shifted, and what you want this to appear like, will only assistance you negotiate healthier boundaries with it in the future. This negotiation is one thing that is also noticed in the BDSM globe.  Prior to you start a scene, which is an arranged and consensual BDSM (bondage/ dominance/ discipline/ sadism/ masochism) act, you will negotiate with your partners and make a decision on any boundaries (so any YES’s and any difficult NO’s) you have. When we are reframing our usage of cannabis, whether or not it is due to the fact we want to have a a lot more conscious connection with it or due to the fact we want to be healthier, we can renegotiate our boundaries in the similar way, to assistance what we do want our connection with cannabis to appear like.  Just due to the fact Dia is hunting for multidimensional clarity with her connection with cannabis, does not imply that has to be the aim for you to. 

If you are like me, perhaps you are just hunting for a healthier physical connection to your physique, or to genuinely honor the reverence of the cannabis plant. What ever your intention is, having clear on this just before you start negotiating with your self can assistance you set your self up for achievement. Possessing realistic expectations and boundaries for this perform is also an additional significant piece of the puzzle. Are you hunting to have a a lot more mystical connection with earth medicine? Or to genuinely only perform with the plant when you are in social circumstances? Possibly you want to only use it medicinally, and not recreationally. Honor what ever feels accurate for you in this predicament.

“That type of reframing is genuinely vital. I do not think in absolutes. So to concentrate a lot more on clarity is not to say ‘I will in no way do this once again,’” Dia explains. “It’s a lot more ‘What do I require now?’ It is a lot more of a case-by-case issue now. Renegotiating your boundaries in a way that is like ‘I’m only going to smoke with other people’ or setting down parameters exactly where you make a decision ‘I’m only going to smoke at a specific time beneath specific conditions’ and then stick to these so you do not have regrets later. Choose slightly improved options, slightly improved options we’re not attempting to go the complete route, but taking 1 step at a time”

Taking child measures to get to exactly where you are going is okay also you do not begin a BDSM scene at complete force, but make up to the preferred intensity so you are in a position to sustain it. We’re undertaking the similar issue in reframing our connection to ganja. Generating boundaries is an act of self-preservation pondering about what you require and what tends to make sense for your life is essential. If you smoke every single day, perhaps it tends to make sense to begin with only smoking at evening and on the weekends, or only with close friends through the week. Possibly you only smoke two joints per week, or perform with CBD and not THC. Hold your self accountable, but do not neglect to have self-compassion and don’t forget why you are undertaking this in the 1st location. 

Develop Private Rituals And Protocols

When we’ve developed boundaries or difficult limits for ourselves, an additional significant way we can perform with cannabis is via sacred intent. We can honor the spirit of the cannabis plant is by blessing it, by holding it with reverence, and by celebrating the spirit of the plant itself. This does not have to be complex. It can be one thing as uncomplicated as holding your flower, vape, concentrate, or tincture in your hands and thanking it, or charging your flower on your altar. 

“Ritualize the use of it, and even just before you engage with that ritual with how you smoke or take it in, attempt blessing it and possessing that be a aspect of the ritual,” Dia suggests. “I believe all of these elements of ritual also permit you to contemplate if this is one thing you require suitable now in this moment. Like exactly where is this require or drive coming from? Am I self-medicating, am I feeding a dependency? At times you are in the middle of setting up a ritual and you are like ‘I’m undertaking this out of worry.’ At times it is that moment of clarity, like ‘maybe I need to place this off till later, or comeback to it when I’m not feeling fearful.’” 

You can even make rituals a non-negotiable for your self, functioning that into your boundaries, generating your personal protocol as it is identified in the BDSM globe. A protocol is a ritual you practice in a energy-dynamic it can be placing a collar on the submissive, kissing the boots of the dominant when they enter the area, or possessing a freshly packed bowl on the nightstand every single evening. Possibly your individual protocol with cannabis is saying “thank you” to the earth and the cannabis plant and all the people today that have helped you connect with it. Possibly it is smoking out of a sacred crystal bowl anytime you incorporate weed into your witchcraft, or consuming a chocolate edible every single time you take a ritual bath. Your protocol can even be taking a second to believe “do I in fact require this suitable now” and then honoring what ever the answer is. The protocols and ritual have to match into your life and make sense for you. If they do not, what’s the point?

The High Priestess: Creating Safe, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis
Ivory Woods

Invite Cannabis To The Scene

If we are negotiating our connection to cannabis as if we had been in a scene, then who’s to say that the spirit of cannabis is not an additional companion we have to perform with? Who’s to say the Ganja Goddess does not turn into an additional prepared participant? We can incorporate cannabis into a scene actually, like smoking just before a superior consensual spanking session or by playing with forced intoxication (consensually having a companion stoned), and taking note of how the cannabis impacts our physique, thoughts, and spirit. And we can also do this in ritual, when we are opening ourselves up to connect to one thing larger than ourselves whether or not it is the universe, pleasure, or the actual spirit of the cannabis plant. 

“Allow it [the cannabis plant] to speak to you. At the starting of a ceremony, you can open up to that intention ‘what do you want me to know, what do you want me to see, what do you want me to really feel.’ Permit the cannabis to be that wisdom that comes in and shows you items,” Dia suggests. 

Irrespective of whether you are hunting to smoke significantly less, smoke a lot more consciously, or just make positive you are the Domme in your connection to cannabis, adding a bit of subversion to the expertise cannot assistance. By having clear on your intentions, renegotiating your boundaries with cannabis, and generating sacred protocols and rituals you will come out on leading with your connection to weed. And if you want to pervert this even a lot more, and perform a tiny attractive kinky stoned magick in there, we’ll that cannot hurt either. So mote it be, witches.


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